Giving Up Our Master Bed For In-laws?
My husband and I have been married for 3 years. Next month his grandparents are coming over to visit for two weeks. We’re trying to figure out which bedroom they should sleep in.
We have a new very nice master bedroom with a new latex mattress. We also have a nice guest bedroom with a king bed but the mattress is not as nice as ours, but still comfortable, with a memory foam layer.
My husband thinks that since they are older people we should give up our nicer bed and let them sleep on it, and we will sleep in the guest room. But somehow I don’t really feel like I have to give up my bedroom for visitors, especially that we have a guest room. He says I am selfish and I don’t care about his relatives.
Am I wrong?
They should sleep in the guest room. That is what it is there for. Are you going to move all your clothes and other things into the guest room as well or just wait until they are up and around every morning to get dressed?
He is being unreasonable.
When my family visited, my brother and his wife slept in the spare room, my mother and my step father slept in our room and my husband and I slept on the day bed. We wanted them to feel very welcomed in our home and the sleeping arrangements were never a problem. It was more important to us to let them know they are welcome anytime and we will always have a room for them.
It’s most appropriate for them to sleep in the guest bedroom. It’s not really appropriate to have them sleep in the master bedroom. Tell your husband that etiquette calls for the guest bedroom. How can he argue with Miss Manners?
Just switch mattresses! You can keep your room, but out of courtesy to his Grandparents let them use the comfy mattress. Good Lord it’s only for 2 weeks!
I wouldn’t be giving up my master bedroom as long as I had a guest room with a perfectly good bed in it.
Well his grandparents aret moving in, they are just visiting so I dont see why they cant sleep on the guest bed. How about asking them whether they want a firm or soft mattress and then add or remove a layer on the guest bed to suit. Its inconvenient to have people in your personal space for too long because everything you need (clothing, shoes, toiletries, etc) is now not at your reach whenever you need it and you are not comfortable. Who wants to be a guest in their own home? Honestly, Im pretty sure if his grandparents are decent people, they wouldnt want you guys to sleep in the guest room anyway. You arent wrong, you just make sense.